This printable Toolkit is for caregivers who feel worn down by sibling conflict, constant “that is not fair,” and tricky peer situations. Siblings and friends can bring connection and joy, and they can also bring noise, competition, and hurt feelings.

Written by Kelly Landry, PhD, BCBA-D, this resource blends the science of behavior with the real dynamics of siblings and peers. The language is practical, compassionate, and focused on safety, skills, and a basic level of respect.

Inside this PDF, you will find:

• Scripts for de-escalating sibling conflict and physical fighting

• Scripts for setting expectations around sharing and turn-taking, and handling toy battles

• Scripts for responding to jealousy and “fairness” comments like “you always help them first” or “you love them more.”

• Scripts to help siblings understand differences and extra supports in simple, honest language

• Scripts for coaching kids before and during playdates, plus language for checking in with other parents

• Scripts for supporting a child after bullying or unkind behavior and for contacting the school or adults in charge

• A gentle closing page for caregivers about shaping relationships over time

Each section includes short teaching blurbs for caregivers plus ready-to-use phrases you can read, copy, and adapt to your own voice.

This toolkit is helpful for:

• Parents and caregivers navigating frequent sibling arguments or competition

• Caregivers who want clearer language for fairness, jealousy, and differences in support

• Families working through tricky peer dynamics, playdates, or early bullying concerns

• Professionals who want a practical handout to recommend to families

Format and access:

• Digital PDF download

• Read it on your phone, tablet, or computer

• Print and keep it with your other script packs or in a “siblings and peers” section of your family binder

Important note:

This resource is for educational purposes and general support. It is not medical advice, therapy, or a replacement for individualized behavioral or mental health services. If there is ongoing aggression, safety concerns, or a history of trauma, please seek support from qualified professionals who can help you plan next steps.