Some behaviors feel bigger and scarier than everyday hard moments. Hitting, biting, kicking, breaking objects, running off, or hiding can put people in danger and leave everyone shaken.

The “Safety and High-Intensity Behavior” Caregiver Toolkit provides concrete language to use when safety is the priority and your nervous system is overloaded. It is designed to help you move toward safety, reduce shame, and focus on simple next steps instead of long lectures.

Inside you will find:

• a “how to use this pack” page to ground you in why safety scripts matter and how to adapt them to your child and setting

• scripts for stepping in quickly, modifying the environment, and prioritizing safety when there is no time for full explanations

• language tools for handling throwing and/or breaking objects, including how to protect people first and remove unsafe items without shaming your child

• scripts for aggression, such as hitting, kicking, and biting, with phrases that clearly separate safety from punishment and focus on reducing harm

• phrases for elopement and hiding, including prevention

• guidance for talking with your child after a safety incident, once everyone is calmer and ready for connection and problem-solving

• caregiver self-talk and boundary scripts to use with yourself, co-parents, and professionals when you need more support

• a closing page on why this work is heavy

This Toolkit is helpful for:

• caregivers navigating aggression, property destruction, or elopement

• adults who want safety-focused language that does not rely on punishment

• families who are working with providers and want day-to-day phrases that align with behavior-analytic support

Format and access:

• digital PDF download

• created to be read on your phone, tablet, or computer

• printable so you can keep a “safety scripts” section in your home binder or post a few go-to lines where you can see them in hard moments

Important note: This guide is for general education and support. It is not therapy, medical advice, or a behavior plan written for your specific child. If there is ongoing aggression, safety concerns, or a history of trauma, please seek support from qualified professionals and follow your local crisis procedures in emergencies.